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Day 63

Engaged

My best friend’s boyfriend finally pulled the trigger and proposed. They were on a luxurious tropical vacation and he surprised her with a lolvely diamond ring and she came home all tan and beaming. They’ve been together for years, they were a couple when I met her, but for some reason the formality of it is giving me this pang.

I’m the only single woman in my tribe. When I hang out with my friends it’s always girls night or a bunch of couples and me. My musician was the first man I ever brought to anything.

Everyone says to relax and enjoy myself and do the things I like to do and when it’s time it will happen. But seriously, I’ve had two relationships in the 9 years I’ve been divorced. The first started during the long divorce process, lasted about two years. Then 6 years of nothing. Then about a year with my musician and I’m still reeling in wtf happened land.

None of my friends know any single men and meeting men on an app does not appeal in the slightest. This is a small town and apps are like the clearance rack at an outlet store.

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  • Bettedavis Bettedavis
    5 months ago

    Oh dear. It will happen if not so what enjoy your life either way

  • Otter Otter
    5 months ago

    Maybe it's time to really throw yourself into your passions? From what I understand, it's easier for someone to find you when you're out in the world doing what you love. If you only hang out with the same people and go to the same places, it's hard to meet someone new. It could be time to plan a vacation (big or small) for yourself - and maybe even your family! Whether it's a festival or concert to attend, planning a road trip, or just deciding to visit a new coffee shop you've never been to before, a new place usually brings new faces. Another thing - if you're in the states - google "Events and Adventures." They have groups in several states, and their idea is pretty neat! Large groups of singles (with no pressure) getting together and... well... going to events and on adventures. lol! It may be worth looking into. At the very least, it's always awesome to make new friends - who then may know other new people to introduce you to. ;)

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  • RavDiablo RavDiablo
    5 months ago

    ^ What Otter said; I live in NYC, so there's a huge pool of women for me to date (although they're either busy, crazy or both....), so I can't imagine how hard it is in a small town. Is there a larger city nearby where you can hunt?

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  • miranda_b miranda_b
    5 months ago

    I am a 2 hour drive from the closest thing to a city. The dating pool is pretty sparse here. I even resorted to asking my divorce attorney whom I became pretty good friends with over the years to keep his eyes open for someone appropriate for me. His response was to ponder his clientele and said “nah, doctors make lousy partners” and dropped it.

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  • RavDiablo RavDiablo
    5 months ago

    That's a very good strategy - maybe you should ask some of the other divorce attorneys out there - sort of like the way they chase ambulances.....

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  • George Smith George Smith
    5 months ago

    I'd go with Otter's advice. I really feel for you. Don't give up. He must be out there.

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  • Hopefully when you least expect it, Mr right will appear

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