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Day 16

Feeling Run Down

I'm feeling stressed. I make good money - I'm lucky to have gotten out of retail hell and into a career, but Honeybun is struggling to find work.

He's been looking for a second job diligently, but it's been difficult. Our area doesn't have much work - it's why I drive an hour every morning into the city. It's getting to him. He doesn't have any college education, and though he's self-taught and amazing with his hands, nobody wants to take a chance on a young man with no higher education. We had both started 2018 unemployed, and it'd taken 6 months for us to find jobs with daily searching. He joined retail, and I joined the corporate world.

He wants to go further. Thinks about going to school to be an aircraft mechanic. He's wanted to work on and fly planes since we skydived the first time. I encourage him, but we have to find the money to send him to school.

We've both been depressed and desperate to spend alone time together to recharge each other, but we cant. It's rainy season, we can't afford to go out, and Uncle never leaves our townhome. Honeybun and I are never truly alone.

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  • SpreadZero SpreadZero
    3 months ago

    Ask him, if he had to do ONE THING for 8 hours a day for 30 years, what would he enjoy doing? It's not worth doing unless he's going to get excited about it as a career. Unfortunately, he must choose ONLY ONE THING he enjoys doing.

    Write down the steps it would take to accomplish. Pay attention to ONLY one step at a time, and he will enjoy a thriving career within 4-5 years.

    It is easy, if he ignores his own mind telling him he can't. xo

    He needs to train his mind to repeat this phrase, "I can do this. I can do this." That's how I survived 7 years of college. Much love to you both.

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  • Otter Otter
    3 months ago

    That is amazing advice, SpreadZero! He loves building things with engines and has slowly been collecting engines and parts from lawnmowers/old scrap cars/etc to build small motorbikes and go-karts in his spare time over the years. He would love to build and work on aircraft.

    I'll have to set him down so we can make a step-by-step plan as you say. Maybe I can get him to focus on the smaller goals first (such as saving a certain amount of money, then getting his basics done).

    He is a whiz at math and science, but awful at language arts. He's terrified of failing a language arts course, but I keep reassuring him he wont - he has a girlfriend who originally wanted to be a professor and graduated Magna Cum Laude with B.A. in English after all. ;) I've told him that if I can get a well-paying job with a degree in a "useless" subject, he can go even further. I've only got an education - he's the one with true intelligence.

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  • SpreadZero SpreadZero
    3 months ago

    He doesn't have anything to fear except his own negativity. He can do this. And, I use to work at Boeing 737 Renton, WA. Get the degree! It's worth it. :) Much love and ENCOURAGEMENT.

    Yes, you can do it. Stop making excuses. :) xo

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  • Otter Otter
    3 months ago

    You're amazing, SpreadZero, and I really appreciate your encouragement! Much love!

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