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Day 115

Is "Social Media" or Community more important to you?

Most humans want to be appreciated. It is validating and meaningful to hear that we've done something helpful or that we are appreciated for who we are. As human beings, we long for connection. We long for companionship. Our brains continue to develop past the age of 25. The craving for interpersonal interaction develops in young children fostered by all the love and affection we give them. We long for a community "It takes a village" that supports raising children. There is an evolutionary advantage to staying connected to those around you. We evolved to need each other. Our modern lifestyle and technology combined with unused metal power has focused our lack of each other. We need mental stimulus and like interacting with others. Every decision that you make in life is based on social stigma or stimulation that you had by society. We are bombarded by society every day with all our senses for 195,000 years or more that you have to reach for companionship. Those who do not "long" or somehow suppressing it for "deeper" meanings.

But, how does society continue to provide the much need human connection via internet based social media? I'm not convinced that it's helping.

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  • Otter Otter
    3 weeks ago

    I deleted all social media off my phone a while ago and only check on FaceBook once in a blue moon from my work computer - and only to check in on my family. There are so many of us, so when something big happens (pregnancy announcement, deaths, hospital visits, etc...) it's easier for us to post to FB than to call everyone individually, because there are hundreds in my family.

    But for conversations and checking-in with each other, I only contact via face-to-face or phone. It builds the relationships stronger.

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  • RavDiablo RavDiablo
    3 weeks ago

    It's half & half: social media has enabled me to meet a lot of people outside my normal friendship group, and has found me 25 of my last 20 girlfriends. So there's that. It's when you're reliant on it for all forms of social interaction that it can be debilitating.....

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  • miranda_b miranda_b
    3 weeks ago

    It depends on how you use it. My friends and I keep in touch via a private FB group to share events and arrange meet-ups. I also have some old friends from high school who keep tabs on each other’s lives via social media. Not close friends but people who we’re at least interested in knowing how each other is doing, seeing each other’s kids growing up and whatnot.
    The problem is when people believe what they see online is reality and not well-edited versions of people’s lives, and when they live exclusively via their phones and don’t actually spend time with real friends.
    If you saw my IG and FB feed you’d think my life was idyllic, but y’all know better.

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  • RavDiablo RavDiablo
    3 weeks ago

    ^What she said^

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  • Bettedavis Bettedavis
    3 weeks ago

    Yes
    Half and half for some
    Too much for others hence suicide and mental health problems in the younger generation

  • SpreadZero SpreadZero
    3 weeks ago

    I'm more of an empath. So, social media is too much for me to observe/experience. So many people are so unhappy all the time. I had to shut it down 100%. So depressing.

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