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Day 482

Lim-er-ence: Look it up.... NOW!

During this period of forced idleness, I've been watching a Netflix show called "Adam Ruins Everything." At its face, it seems to be a show that just enjoys calling out all the little absurdities that go into our daily lives, from jaywalking to vitamins, but it also capable of going very, very deep. In tonight's episode, it was about "love."

Or what we think is love... it's all very tricky, but what many of us think of as "love" is really something different - it is a state of infatuation which carries us along, and usually wears off after about 3 years. Which is funny, because that's how long my relationship with Charmante lasted: about 2 1/2 years.

And what were we feeling for one another, when we declared love for one another, and all that affection and happiness and shared good times (which gradually went south?) It was not other than limerence, that feeling of infatuation and obsession for another....

Although I would say that real "limerence" didn't last long: we had a very romantic relationship in the beginning, and then it began to wear down gradually and eventually, it just disappeared altogether....

Although truth be told, I do think about her frequently.

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  • SpreadZero SpreadZero
    3 months ago

    Fascinating: "A strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings."

    Maybe this is why so many relationships fail? There's typically no "reciprocation" of equal value. It's always an attempt by others that most often creates disappointment, due to expectations of reciprocating similar feelings that never come to fruition.

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  • SpreadZero SpreadZero
    3 months ago

    My ex-wife and I were true loves. We're still Facebook friends.

    Too bad I'm gay.

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