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My name is *****, and I'm unconfident

Well here I am, I've never kept a diary before, or Blogged.... In fact the closest thing to this I've ever done is probably:

Facebook, which is just full of games and stuff about how awesome bacon is.. What's with that anyway?

Twitter, pictures of peoples dinner & folks competing for wittiest comment to question time.

So this whole experience is very new to me. I stumbled across this site today via an article in the Daily Mail (don't judge, I'd like to think I read it Ironically), I must admit the idea of complete anonymity is what drew me in, here I can say what I want about myself and how I'm feeling feels quite liberating.

Everyone I know thinks I'm this funny, outgoing, confident guy. I'm not, fact is I have zero self confidence and my sense of humour hides my insecurities. I get on well with others and have no trouble making friends don't get me wrong, I just don't believe in myself. Just last week I opened up about this to one of the girls I work with, she couldn't believe it. She then went on to tell me I'm brilliant... So why don't I believe her?

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  • Beautiful Disaster Beautiful Disaster
    93 months ago

    Welcome to our world, make yourself at home, you may well like it here , you sound like a true to yourself kind of person , and so far that is all I have met here , Good to have you on board x

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  • Lightsareon Lightsareon
    93 months ago

    Chances are you missed out on being complimented at a young age as much as you needed it, but never noticed. Now you notice other peoples compliments a lot more than the ones directed to you. This amplifies the problem. You need to believe in yourself. I know where you are coming from, it's not easy at all.

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  • Cassie Cassie
    93 months ago

    Wow, I can completely relate to everything you said. I have lots of friends and appear confident and outgoing but inside its a completely different story. My last relationship has only compounded how I feel about myself, it's hard to believe good things about yourself! Oh and by the way, I joined this site after reading about it on the Daily Mail website too! Eeeeek, the shame!!

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  • Confused Ape Confused Ape
    93 months ago

    Actually my childhood was fine, my parents couldn't have been more loving and supportive, so I don't think it's that. I've just never had much belief in myself. I have however started counseling. Hoping that will help with my self image.

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  • Deep down most of us suffer those crushing feelings of doubt and worthlessness that you're speaking of. Part of the problem is that we are all worried about being honest so we walk through the world with a sort of mask on, the face we want the world to see. The real us cowers behind it desperately trying to keep the aspects of our personalities hidden that we do not like. Morbidly obese people buying the small salad telling thier friends that it's all they've eaten that day and then going home and gorging themselves on chocolate and crisps. Financially destitute spending money they don't have so that the world does not know they are skint. The shy unconfident person putting on a front of confidence because they are afraid to show that they are human. Heros don't act without fear, they act inspite of fear!

  • This Is Me This Is Me
    93 months ago

    A lot of us joined today thanks to the Daily Mail link including me. And don't worry about not judging you as we don't know you!

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  • Sara Sara
    93 months ago

    I came through the DM link too and I've a similar problem so I totally feel for you.

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  • princessjebbie princessjebbie
    93 months ago

    Hello ! I would like to say I love bacon. And welcome x

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  • MisterMister MisterMister
    91 months ago

    My nieces got me started on fb. I always call it 'In your facebook', because people can just send messages that you may not be interested in seeing at all. I don't really use it now at all. I have three kind of simplistic suggestions: look for the old John Prine song 'Dear Abby', listen to the Beatles song 'Good Day Sunshine', I keep the lyrics in the back of my mind for when I need them. And finally check out the web site "the global edition", it is satire of news stories, clever, funny and sometimes just plain goofy.

  • MisterMister MisterMister
    91 months ago

    I just discovered this site today too. It is so nice to find comment threads that are positive, supportive, open-minded. The posts are thoughtful and the issues are real. It is great to have a place where you can post what you think or feel without worrying about people swearing and fighting. Oh yeah, this feels good!

  • Anonymous Anonymous
    91 months ago

    I love how the Pencourage family is getting bigger, it means more people who might feel happer themselves as i do everyday when i log out knowing i have just received the best advice or helped someone through somthing :D x

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  • Anonymous Anonymous
    48 months ago

    Welcome to the neighborhood! I too was wary of keeping a journal and was drawn to the anonymity... I have found that I'll go long stretches without posting anything but seem to return when I have something to get off my chest I can't really talk about with anyone else. It's a welcoming and safe place.

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