Old Wounds - Even After Almost 4 Years Together
We talked until 2 am. Much of that time was spent with me holding him tight while he sobbed, opening up about old scars that still hurt.
His dad walked out when Honeybun was young and started a new family elsewhere. His mom mentally checked-out after and left her children to fend for themselves while she lived her "partying" days. Bear moved out asap, leaving Honeybun to care for himself and their little sister. Their mom came to her senses about 10 years later, but the damage was done. Honeybun is a survivalist and isn't used to being cared for. It makes him feel guilty. He thinks he's not good enough for me, and that I'll disappear like his parents.
Before we got together, he'd been in a 10-year-long abusive relationship. She'd destroyed his self-esteem, manipulated him, and made him care for her baby - whom she'd had by another man she was cheating on Honeybun with. Whenever Honeybun "disobeyed" her, she'd hit him, then make him sleep on the couch, floor, or in his car. He thought he deserved it. I know this girl from our middle-school days, and she's pure Evil.
Healing will have to come slowly and with much love.