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Day 168

Pizza Night

Dad has been on a business trip since Tuesday and returns Sunday - leaving Mom alone with their parrot and two dogs to keep her company. She only leaves the house for errands, so she's been lonely.

I'll be driving to see her after work, and I'm picking pizza up along the way. She was so excited to hear I'll be coming, and she's already got a movie picked out for us to watch. I love my mom dearly, and I'm happy to spend some mom/daughter time with her, but I know the evening will exhaust me.

She still disapproves of Honeybun. Whenever I mention his name, she simply ignores me and changes topic. When I bring him to visit, she acts sweetly enough towards him (which I appreciate), but he feels the tension. I do wish she'd stop telling me how "Depressed" and "Stressed" she is, and how she walks "through the house every night crying." When I ask her why, she insinuates it's because of my relationship, but doesn't directly state it. Dad tells me she's just being dramatic, and that she's upset she can't control me anymore. We're both still trying to get her to stop baby-talking to me.

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  • runcicle runcicle
    4 weeks ago

    Dad's right. Express it in the reverse order; she can't control you anymore so she's throwing a tantrum. She hasn't grown beyond three. Extra evidence is the baby talk.

    Your Mum is excellent training in how to deal with your first child. Ask Dad for tips; he's been doing it for a long time.

    (Ask Mum how her mother treated her.)

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  • Otter Otter
    4 weeks ago

    She has a lot of trauma she needs to work through, and we've been trying to get her to a therapist for years. Her mother is an evil woman. Selfish. Cruel. She went through many husbands when my mom and her brothers were growing up - Many were physically abusive, many were sexually abusive, and most of them were both. She's been through horrors I wouldn't have thought anyone could survive. I'll post someday about my mother's past - on a day when I'm stronger and can stomach it and find ways to tell it while simultaneously protecting her privacy. She worked her ass off to pull herself out of that situation and has poured unending love and protection onto me because she wanted better for her own daughter. She conveys it in the wrong way, and her social skills are pretty poor, but I understand her.

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