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Day 343

Slightly loosing it

After a pretty good first night, babba has quite quickly realised how scary being in his cot is. And now screams non stop through the night for me. No one else will do, it has to be me.
And it feels so much like walking into a jail cell. I can't put him back down in the cot otherwise he starts screaming again. And it's not like I don't try - I'm trying not to be in there all night.
The first night he slept so well, and so did I. Oh my gosh I felt like my old self again! It's shown me what these disturbed nights have done to me.
I can't find any help online that I don't have to pay through the nose for. Once the house is through we will see how much money is left, and start saving a little a month to speak to a sleep consultant. Because I can't do this.
Every time I ask for help I'm told I'm asking too much. But then I'm constantly being told that I need to be aware of my limitations. It's confusing and hurtful.
We need to get into our own place asap. Our welcome is up here.

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  • runcicle runcicle
    3 weeks ago

    Sleep consultant!

    Sounds as if you'll need to be saving for a nappy rash consultant, birthday party consultant, standing-up consultant, walking consultant, tantrum consultant, speech consultant, live-in nanny.

    Do you remember that he slept so well after swimming?

    He needs to be exhausted. Every day.

    Don't let anyone impose their idea of your limitations on you. You have none.

    Those are their limitations and they think 'how could anyone possibly do any better than me!'

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  • George Smith George Smith
    3 weeks ago

    How old is he now? Is he on solids? Have you thought about leaving him to cry, knowing he's safe and fed? It's extremely hard but if you don't go to him he will soon learn that there is no point in crying. It's something you and your husband need to be united in trying to do. It's not easy at all, but if he's safe he is okay and he will live. Why not try it for your sanity? I had four babies in four years and did that with all of them at the age of four months and it worked after one night with each of them. I couldn't have survived otherwise. Good luck. xx

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  • Befalus Befalus
    14 days ago

    He is 10 months, 8 corrected. He used to sleep well until he hit the 6 month regression and since then it's been really hit and miss. We have tried cry it out over the period of a week, unfortunately it does not work for this little angry man - he just works himself into an absolute frenzy. We were advised to stop.
    He is also on solids, he eats exceptionally well for his age. Again, we were advised to try and get more protein into him, but it still doesn't seem to have made a difference.
    He is a very active child, as much as he can be without actually being moving yet. I'm hoping once he can move under his own steam we can tire him out further. He has bouncers to throw himself about in, were constantly practicing with his walker, he is given loads of floor time and he has great fun in a bath in his evening bedtime routine.
    We have tried almost every trick in the book and it's just not making a difference at the moment. But, we know it can, so it's just going through the motions until he settles again. But oh my god the crying. He has quite a pitch

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  • George Smith George Smith
    14 days ago

    Oh, Befalus, I'm so sorry. I see how it is. Impossible. I have no idea. I can imagine how suffocating it is... just keep holding on. Very good you are so in love with him otherwise it would be even worse. You are doing everything you can and I'm sorry it's so hard. Stay strong. Can you sleep when he does, whenever he does? xx

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  • Befalus Befalus
    14 days ago

    It's amazing what we do for this gorgeous little creatures isn't it! You're just a bit of a superstar in my eyes right now, George - 4 babies in 4 years! I'm struggling with the one right now, I can't even imagine multiplying this by 4 haha.
    Husband is home on his weekend off this Sunday and Monday so we now have these nights to work together with babba. We shall stand United against these forces trying to break us down!

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  • George Smith George Smith
    13 days ago

    I shouldn't have said that. My first wasn't like yours and if he had been I doubt I would have had them so quickly :) I'm glad to read that your little guy slept last night - what a blessing. I hope he does that more often... Think of Queen Anne who had 17 pregnancies and not one lived to adulthood.

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