Struggling Daughter.... I've been here before....Questions....
We've all been here before: when you see a person who is struggling, and you try to help, and they refuse, because they want to do things their own way, and suffer for it. You know they can do better.
So I'm visiting EldestDaughter and she's 35 and has a 3 year old daughter whom she is raising separately from the father (who is lazy, but calm.) And the 3YO is doing what all 3 year olds do, and it's driving her crazy.
3YO doesn't want to sleep in her carriage while on walk, EldestDaughter gets upset; 3YO had a big breakfast and doesn't want to eat lunch, EldestDaughter has a fit. 3YO asks for her pasta to be cut up into small pieces, EldestDaughter gets upset.
I try to talk to EldestDaughter about it, and she gets monumentally pissed off. She tells me, what do I know about her situations? Well, I did raise 2 kids, and I work with children for past 35 years, so I know something. But she won't hear it: she wants to suffer alone.
This is all familiar to me, because I went through exactly same issue with Charmante: she's in trouble, needs help, but wants none.