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Day 599

The part of my email I didn't dare send

I'm taking Ma to the chiropodist this morning. She has to go to the chiropodist every month. Last night she smelled terribly and I discovered why this morning - poo on her trousers. They're at the dry cleaners. The only trousers she likes have to be dry cleaned! I've taken all her clothes for a good wash. Hygiene is a bit of an issue - her hair has been left way too long, so that is great you will be taking her to Alex. Please don't forget to say that she needs something for dandruff.

I am sorry Teddy couldn't take any time off for Ma, but at least he did take her to the National Trust place on Saturday. I feel so sorry for Ma. She is given so little now - she used to get cashmere tops for Christmas and silk scarves. Now it's a pot plant. She didn't want all this and I understand that but she is here now and we have to do what we can. Old people are badly treated in this country and our society and culture accepts this. Care of little children is going the same way: professionals take over, parents work.

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  • Bettedavis Bettedavis
    7 months ago

    My Mum went the same way
    So difficult, stay strong for her .....

  • Bettedavis Bettedavis
    7 months ago

    You know the saying
    My Mum took care of 6 children
    But no one wanted to take care of Mum
    That's why my Sister took her to Wales

  • George Smith George Smith
    7 months ago

    ... and did your sister look after her in Wales? ... and could you not take care of your Mum? I understand how much you miss her and I fear that I will feel the same - and know how bad I was to think the things I do about her, and say the things I do. It's so difficult - knowing how unreachable this time now will be in the future. I feel as though I am tested every day to be a better person than I am. It's a challenge.

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  • Bettedavis Bettedavis
    7 months ago

    Yes George my Sister looked after her and laid her out when she died
    She took her away from lots of her close family it was a 4 hour round trip to see her we all wanted to care for her
    Share the care but my Sister controlled the whole situation then was really nasty
    It's a long story
    I know it's a challenge for you
    Living in the moment is difficult
    I hope you get the support you need x

  • George Smith George Smith
    7 months ago

    Thank you Bettedavis. xx

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