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Day 193

Trying to be content

A few weeks ago a work colleague of the past 17 years died, very suddenly. It was blood poisoning and he was gone in the blink of an eye.

It was quite distressing and very hard to take in, god knows how his family coped at the time. My whole work closed for the day of his funeral and all the workers went.

The man who passed was an absolute gentleman, no one had a bad word to say about him. He never drank, smoked or even swore! He was a contented family man. He was at retirement age but wanted to keep working on to provide for his family. He just came to work and then went home. He was never off sick.

At his funeral his son told how he had the same mobile for the past 20 years and only had 5 contacts in it, he was due an upgrade years ago but was happy with what he had.

I'd like to be more like that, more content instead of wanting stuff and getting annoyed about my wages being spent on others apart from me.

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  • runcicle runcicle
    25 months ago

    So why do you get yourself annoyed if you want to be not annoyed?

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  • George Smith George Smith
    25 months ago

    Runcicle, have you never done something you know you shouldn't do?

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  • runcicle runcicle
    25 months ago

    Yes.

    Sometimes the realization is fairly immediate, sometimes the realization comes only after many years, and I'm fairly certain that there were some actions that I haven't yet realized were wrong.

    All actions are a result of an attitude of mind, so that must mean that the attitude is wrong. How did I get that attitude?

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  • runcicle runcicle
    25 months ago

    Do I still have that attitude? Would I do the same again? If so, then my attitude hasn't changed. I must have a false belief about something. Is that false belief the result of my own experience or reasoning, or is it something that I've been told? Such as 'I'm fat because of my genes', 'I'll be rewarded if I kill someone who doesn't believe the same as what i believe', 'if someone in front of me is driving more slowly than I then they shouldn't be on the road', 'If someone behind me is driving faster than I then they shouldn't be on the road,' 'If my partner doesn't want sex when I do then (s)he is unfeeling', 'if my partner wants sex when I don't then (s)he is too rampant'.

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  • George Smith George Smith
    25 months ago

    Given that, why did you ask Escape the question you asked him?

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  • runcicle runcicle
    24 months ago

    Escape, I hope that you don't mind if we continue this discussion on your post!?

    Most people think that their feelings and emotions are not under their control. They just 'happen' to them, caused by external circumstances.

    'I can't help it if I'm sad/happy/annoyed/angry/suicidal/murderous. That's just how I feel. It's circumstances'.

    If we're always controlled by circumstances, and not ourselves, then clearly it's pure chance of circumstance whether we eventually kill ourself or someone else - and that defense has never been accepted. (Except in France as a 'crime passionel').

    So If I'm not going to allow myself to be controlled by circumstances then I've got to find out why I'm sad/annoyed/... Why am I annoyed with my partner?

    I've usually found that it's because I consider that I think that I'm entitled to something that has not been provided, like the washing up, or a smile, or a pat on the back, or sex, or recognition that my money is for me. It's always the result of a false belief.

    Change the belief, changes the attitude, changes the emotion, happier life.

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