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Day 443

Please Explain: It's 2018, and I'm still expected to....

make the "first move?"

So I've been out with this very nice woman, three dates: out for drink and light dinner, talked for a few hours; then went ice skating, talked for a few hours; out to a show, talked for a few hours. We did some necking as well before she hurried home. All good.

But unless I text her first, I'll never hear from her. Even when I text her, the exchange goes back and forth, and then she drops out. Don't know what to make of that.

It's 2018, people. Doesn't texting/calling work both ways? Can't she start the exchange by a simple "check in." It would be nice to hear someone instigate the text: "hey, how are you?"

But it's always me who has to make the first move. If I didn't, I would be forgotten, probably. Women blame men for "ghosting" them all the time, but don't they have to take some initiative as well? They want to be treated as equals, shouldn't they behave as equals?

I'm sorta getting fed up with all this. But I always do, and someone always turns up.....

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  • miranda_b miranda_b
    10 months ago

    I’ve decided equality is overrated. I’ve been the alpha in every relationship I’ve had (until the most recent which was a big part of the appeal, though that’s all gone to shit as you know) and as strong and independent as I am, having someone pursue me is amazing. I’d love to have a man do all the work for a little while (and trust me, I’d make it worth his while). While we’re on the subject, I’d love to be the one receiving child support instead of paying it too. Perhaps this new woman is feeling the same way... finally a man of quality has come along, a man worthy of deferring to, so she’s basking in it. That it she’s just meek and unworthy of you and you should move on.

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  • Bettedavis Bettedavis
    10 months ago

    Yes move on
    No appreciation at all
    It needs to work both ways
    You know that now

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