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Day 44

The end of an institution

My brother is getting divorced after 17 years of marriage. When I talked to my mom she seemed more upset that “the age of marriage” was over than that her child was being dumped.

It sparked some interesting conversations amongst my friends about marriage in general. I agree the era of marriage as our parents knew it is over, and I give credit to increasing female equality. Women don’t have to put up with unhappiness anymore. My grandparents were married forever and had five children spread over 20 years. Not because my grandmother wanted them, but because my grandfather was an angry alcoholic and whenever she started getting the nerve up to leave him he’d get her pregnant.

Yes, I agree some couples are too quick to throw in the towel, but for the most part I think women don’t feel they need to stay in bad situations as much. We’re more educated, more independent, are more able to support ourselves than ever before. I think divorce will be more common as equality improves, and fewer women will opt for marriage in the first place.

After seeing what I went through I doubt my daughter will get married at all.

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  • RavDiablo RavDiablo
    3 months ago

    My ex and I split up after 20 years; it wasn't that bitter. We agreed that we had both grown in different directions, so we split up, but made sure the kids were taken care of. We worked together over the years to make sure our kids were looked after in a consistent way, and they are doing fine. I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as the parents can get along.

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