Answer my question, please....
I've been together with my girlfriend for 2+ years and I adore her quite much, and I know she feels the same way about me. We get along pretty well (for the most part), the sex is good (albeit not often enough), and there's no reason to question our relationship.
But here's the problem: her adult son. He's a pretty responsible kid who is going to school part time while working, and he's mostly okay. Except when he's not. He has been identified with an anxiety disorder, and although he knows his life would be better if he gets treated for it, he won't.
During the past year my lovely GF has developed this kind of co-dependent relationship. He freaks out, she rushes in to try to help him, he refuses to accept the help, gets past whatever is freaking him out, and then life goes on. This happens almost every week.
I've tried to help; I've given my gf information on agencies that will help her, and she takes zero action to get help for her son. She doesn't have to fix it immediately, but she must start trying. I'm ready to give her an ultimatum: get help or we're through. You?