X
Lammy
  • Day 81

Does this guy have a death wish?!

The OSP (Office Sex Pest) is really testing my patience lately! He's really taking advantage of Bitch Boss being on holiday.

Normally he would come in to our office to pester me only to be sent away with his tail between his legs by Bitch Boss.

However since she's been gone he's taken to sitting in her seat opposite me for his morning coffee, kneeling next to my desk when asking me a question (even if he's asking if I want tea) I've had 183 e-mails from him in the past 2 days. None of them make any sense and he's constantly forgetting to attach items or giving me the wrong e-mail address just so I then have to pester him for them.

He calls me Kiddo, Sambo, Sweetie and Mrs B ( his last name's Baker) I keep telling him that I don't like his inappropriate behaviour but he just can't take the hint. I really don't like the idea of being impolite to him or complaining about him to our director but I'm only 19 and he's a 56 year old man, his behaviour is just too much on top of everything else I'm already having to deal with! HELP

  • 584 Readers   .
  • 11 Comments

11 Comments

  • Anonymous Anonymous 6th Mar 2013 at 10:59am
    You need to make an official complaint my lovely. I know you hate the idea of it, but you have made it clear to him his behaviour makes you uncomfortable. He is seriously dreaming if he thinks he has a chance with you, what a moron! Either tell him if he does not back off, you will make a complaint or go straight to the top. He will not back down and if you say nothing, he will push the boundaries even further. Sounds like a dirty sod, give me his email and I will let him know ;-) Seriously though, he needs to be told x

    User Rating:

    (4.28/5 average)
  • Therese Cash Therese Cash 6th Mar 2013 at 11:01am
    Play by the book. Check what it says about harrassment in your employee handbook, and follow the process. And importantly, make sure at least one other prson who will stand by you and who has credibility knows what is happening and observes some of the incidents. I've dealt with this as a man-manager many times and wouldn't recommend some of my solutions but as someone relatively inexperienced in the workplace, working the system is my best advice. And if that doesn't work, and you are in a union, talk to your union rep. No excuse for this, and by the way I'm a man in his 50's
    User Not Rated
  • Therese Cash Therese Cash 6th Mar 2013 at 11:03am
    NB I think calling you Kiddo and Sweetie is still on the 'OK' side of things even in these oh-so-PC days but if he's calling you Sambo because of the colour of your skin, that is waaaay out of order!
    User Not Rated
  • Slavemeat Slavemeat 6th Mar 2013 at 11:12am
    report him or tell him you are going to report him if he doesn't stop making you feel uncomfortable hun. xxx

    User Rating:

    (4.99/5 average)
  • Therese Cash Therese Cash 6th Mar 2013 at 11:18am
    Sharing my experience of this with all, the problem for Lammy is how 'in the company old boys network' this sleaze is. That can be very difficult to overcome, as I have found many times in a long career
    User Not Rated
  • Waiting for a life Waiting for a life 6th Mar 2013 at 2:21pm
    Therese and the others are right. I am a Manger and our grievance procedure would give you complete support on this so I'm sure your company must have the same. There is also HR who might be able to help? Whatever happens don't put up with it!

    User Rating:

    (4.95/5 average)
  • Lammy Lammy 6th Mar 2013 at 3:27pm
    Thanks for your comments! There are many other things he does (e.g staring at my boobs,going pwoaaarrr when I come into the office etc etc) It's just a bit much. I'd hate to make an official complaint against him as our office is only small and I'm worried about what kind of atmosphere it might cause but I'm really fed up about it! Many people in the office have noticed his behaviour and aren't impressed. I am one of 3 girls but it seems to be me that he targets the most with his comments. I think i'll discuss this with the HR manager ( she's also a good friend of mine at the company) and see what advice she has to offer. I didn't mean that him being 56 makes his behaviour sleazy, if it was some one my own age I would still feel the same, my point is surely he should know better?

    User Rating:

    (4.95/5 average)
  • Therese Cash Therese Cash 6th Mar 2013 at 5:05pm
    Age is no excuse. Being 56 actually removes any excuse about it being a ham-fisted attempt to 'ask you out' (as someone your own age could argue), its just 100% selfish self-gratification on his part. Yuk.
    User Not Rated
  • LazyDays LazyDays 7th Mar 2013 at 6:55am
    Lammy, please complain otherwise he will only get worse. I'm all for a joke and chatting up a lady, but his behaviour is neither.

    User Rating:

    (4.90/5 average)
  • Stargazer Stargazer 12th Mar 2013 at 8:55am
    This was happened to my little sister at work and she wanted me to knock the dude out. I explained that would land me in court so I told her to just whip out the iphone when he came into the office and if he started his usual shenanigans just to point the phone camera at him and say nothing.
    Later that week she told me the dude caught on that he was being recorded and quickly stopped and even apologized.
    User Not Rated
  • Therese Cash Therese Cash 12th Mar 2013 at 2:07pm
    Sargazer, I've seen family members 'straighten' a pervy office worker with real or threatened violence. I'm a lover not a fighter myself but there was definitely a 'case to answer' and the retribution was exteremely effective.
    User Not Rated

You need to be registered on signed in to post a comment

Register Sign In
Like That? Love These
ScarlettScarlett
Bookmark
24 Sep

A need for speed

Good day, Running, 40, Girl racer, Fun ride, Very fast

2982 Readers . 6 comments  

  • Waiting for a life

    Waiting for a life If I am as cool as you when I turn 40 then I will ...

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous Sounds a great day was had, speed scares me so ver...

  • Scarlett

    Scarlett The new car should be in 3 weeks!!!!!1 yay 0-60 in...

  • Slavemeat

    Slavemeat 40s are fun Scarlett. Age is just a number rememb...

  • LazyDays

    LazyDays The one I drive at work is 0 to 60 in 10 minutes.....

  • LazyDays

    LazyDays Down hill, with a following wind...

JustaguyJustaguy
1
Bookmark
13 May

I was verbally berated today...

Marriage

172 Readers . 2 comments  

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous Happened to me once. I asked her who the fuck she ...

  • Justaguy

    Justaguy That was pretty much how it played out.

keltic monkkeltic monk
Bookmark
3 Feb

what a week at work

Work

145 Readers . 0 comments  

Also on this day
Salt LickSalt Lick
Bookmark
6 Mar

Workin' for the man who don' pay nothin'.....

Work, Writing, Art, Freelance

408 Readers . 7 comments  

  • LazyDays

    LazyDays Doing stuff, spending time doing stuff, not gettin...

  • Dragonite

    Dragonite i was 2 when this happened :)

  • Salt Lick

    Salt Lick Dragonite you're lucky: it could have been one...

  • LazyDays

    LazyDays But you could claim unfair dismissal....got a trib...

  • Therese Cash

    Therese Cash Prroblem is, journalism is a 'low barriers to ...

  • Salt Lick

    Salt Lick mmm...love and glory's nice, but eventually I ...

  • Evangeline

    Evangeline I have been here so many times before, you have my...

RandomRandom
Bookmark
6 Mar

Give me some LOVE!

Love, Journal, Pencourage, Writers

139 Readers . 0 comments  

WingsOfFreedomWingsOfFreedom
Bookmark
6 Mar

Just some thoughts...

Children, Busy, Time, Positivity, Parent, Misunderstood

407 Readers . 3 comments  

Scroll to Top

Welcome to Pencourage.

|    Close message X