Day 251

I owe my body the luxury of his touch...

Well it's been a while. Probably around 3 years if not more since I came on here... but this is the only place I hope to seek advice without judgement.

I'm in a 2.5 year relationship with an incredible man. He spoils me, he treats me amazingly, he makes me laugh... he's a dream he really is.

The sex... Just isn't there. I've always been a sexual person but I feel like there's some clicks missing. It was better at the start but he didn't make my head spin, and never has even with kissing.

3 years ago I was seeing a man for around 4 months until he moved away. Lovely man. In sex we could not have clicked more. He touched me like I don't think anyone will ever will again.

I get waves now and again in my current relationship pining for the sexual desire of the other man. Tonight I've lost it and don't know where else to turn.

I love my partner more than anything but I just wish I could bring that other fire into this relationship. I have tried suggesting things to bring it aspects of that sex to no avail.

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  • RavDiablo RavDiablo
    9 months ago

    Oh, man, that's really hard (and I'm trying to be a punster...) I posted about the ups and downs of being physically attracted to your mate, and from a man's point of view, it's just as debilitating. He probably knows he's not doing it for you, Maybe you should ask him about an "open" relationship where you can get your sexual desires fulfilled elsewhere? If my gf asked me for that, I think I would understand, so long as it didn't take her away from me more than occasionally, and it kept her happy.....

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  • runcicle runcicle
    9 months ago

    Perhaps your expectation of a spinning head is wrong? Do you make his head spin?

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  • torch torch
    9 months ago

    Men aren't too good at reading between the lines when it comes to hints and suggestions. Perhaps you could have a frank two way conversation regarding both your feelings and desires. If he responds well give him positive feedback and make this type of chat a regular thing. We don't know his age but male sex drive can lessen with age, medication, stress, etc.

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