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If you think someone is unkind to you, is that punishment for all the times you've made mistakes?

If a group of your 'best friends' tells you that you have a personal problem that you need to fix, while laughing and talking about it behind your back, are they being kind by informing you, like they say, or are they just being horrible?

If you get annoyed with them, and two of the group say sorry when you apologize for being irritated, but the last one just says 'Good' when you say you'll try to fix it, are they still being mean?

Sometimes I wish they'd just stop laughing and shut up.

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  • Waiting for a life Waiting for a life
    28 months ago

    Maybe they aren't friends. Is there not a very good English saying that you should laugh with people rather than at them? You are far too nice to have to put up with it :)

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  • Anonymous Anonymous
    28 months ago

    Unfortunately, it's human nature for people to gossip behind someone's back about personal issues. Then tell the person about it. I see it happen at work, they'll discuss someone's BO issue before a few of them will approach the poor person, or leave a can of antiperspirant and giggle about it...

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  • pureandsimple pureandsimple
    28 months ago

    True friendship is not like what you described. Real friends treat each other with compassion, not empathy or sympathy but both. They are there to pick you up when you fall; they are there to laugh with you when you're joyful. Don't put up with it.

  • Beautiful Disaster Beautiful Disaster
    28 months ago

    So True WFAL x

    Mistakes are a learning curb of life we should not be punished for them unless they are detrimental to others and not ourselves, and by that i mean in a serious way not a learning kind of way .
    If i had a thought a friend of mine had a problem i would choose the time and place to speak to them about it first before anyone else. They are not friends they are insecure folk who belittle others to make conversation cos they have nothing better to talk about , making them shallow .
    You dont have to wait for them to shut up, life is borrowed time, you have to walk away from them so there words become a wisper and silnce and walk towards people who know how to treat others right x

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  • FlyAway FlyAway
    28 months ago

    It's pretty unfair that your so-called friends are being absolutely horrid. I'm inclined to agree with the comments above - maybe they're not your friends? ; But maybe they are people you are tolerating at the moment, you are obviously different - in a good way - you obviously think about how other people feel, are not judgemental, and frankly ! You sound like a lovely human-being; so as BD said; you don't have to wait for them to shut up; you can make new friends! xx

    Hope it works out, and you are not suffering for too long! I had some "friends" like that - now they are no longer my friends, and I am a lot happier because of it! Good riddance to bad rubbish is what I say. (: x

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  • :)isgood :)isgood
    28 months ago

    Wow, thank you everybody! You are all fabulous! At the moment we are still friends but to be honest, quite often I feel happier when I'm not with them, although recently it's been better than it was. I'm trying to make an effort to hang out with other people, and I think I'm getting there. Thank you so much again, your comments mean so much. :) xx

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  • :)isgood :)isgood
    28 months ago

    Wow, thank you everybody! You are all fabulous! At the moment we are still friends but to be honest, quite often I feel happier when I'm not with them, although recently it's been better than it was. I'm trying to make an effort to hang out with other people, and I think I'm getting there. Thank you so much again, your comments mean so much. :) xx

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