Wading In VS. Being Swept Away
I know there's a customary "wait time" between relationships, but I've never understood the custom and I'm too impulsive to engage in that thing called "wait time." I also know that tempus fugit and that if something goes by you that looks tempting, there's no point in delaying: Carpe Diem!
So I find myself involved with someone new, but our approach is very similar, yet a break from the past for both of us. As we discussed our romantic histories, our tendency was to get "swept away" by a new partner, abandoning uncertainty and diving right in and then figuring out whether the nuts and bolts needed to succeed are there.
But this is something new: we're going slowly, carefully uncovering one another, a bit at a time. There's no gushing oaths, no "head over heel" declarations, but rather a daily constancy, and a get together once of twice a week, sometimes with some physicality thrown in (when it presents itself.)
But it's interesting, because I live my life and she lives her life, and we "check in" but, unlike our previous partners, we don't "check up" on one another. No suspicion, no possession, just constancy and gentleness.
Maybe this is a keeper.