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Day 12

What should I do?

Just woke up to listen my roommates speaking bad about me. I don't know what to do. All the little time I spend in the house is in my room by myself. This make me so uncomfortable. But I love the house. I don't know what to do.

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  • Anon de Plume Anon de Plume
    56 months ago

    How long have you been in the house, and how long is your lease?

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  • Lorpa Lorpa
    56 months ago

    Ends in June and I'm here since September.

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  • Anon de Plume Anon de Plume
    56 months ago

    Well. If you need the house next year and you know they'll be there too, or if you just want to address it, then it's time to put big person pants on and address the issue in a reasonable manner. "I overheard you talking about me. I'm not interested in who said what, when or why, but I'd like a little respect. I wouldn't do it to you guys and I'd just like you not to do it to me." That's what works in theory. But there may be way more at play here than you have mentioned so far. But if the only reason you think it has to be dealt with is because you love the house, then that's slightly flawed. You need to love yourself as No.1 and find decent people to rent with next year...I'd spend the next 4 months hooking up with other like-minded people to make sure I had as many alternatives as possible...

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  • Anon de Plume Anon de Plume
    56 months ago

    Sorry, old fogey speak "hooking up" = "networking" ;)

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  • Lorpa Lorpa
    56 months ago

    Yes you are right. I don't care about this people anyway they already show me what are their true colours. I should be in a place that make me feel good. I just wish I could stop thinkin about that, cause I never had in my intire life a fight with no one. I'm always in peace with everybody. But I just want to take that of my mind and make it till June.
    Thank you so much for the device. I appreciate it!

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  • Anon de Plume Anon de Plume
    56 months ago

    You're welcome Lorpa. And just remember, you are not the problem. They are the problem.

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  • Whats Next Whats Next
    56 months ago

    I've had roommates before and it is one of the hardest of relationships. Its a very tricky thing. One of the things I have learned in any relationship is to be straight forward and honest with people. Perhaps they can explain to you in earnest what and why they feel as they do. Having a conversation in an honest and sincere way could go a long way to helping the relationship. You all need to be together for a certain amount of time so perhaps easing tensions by talking would help.

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  • Lorpa Lorpa
    56 months ago

    Thank you. I will consider it. I just don't realy know how to start it. Guess I'm lucky because I never had to deal with something like that before.

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  • Whats Next Whats Next
    56 months ago

    invite them to dinner, something cheap in case it goes bad, lol, then just breach the subject being sincere and careful not to blame or be to much the victim. Just be honest and be sincere in trying to solve the problem in the interest of getting along.

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  • Lorpa Lorpa
    56 months ago

    Thank you!

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